There are a lot of things to keep in mind when discussing gender, especially with someone you may not know well. Here are some simple do’s and don’ts.
Do: Be respectful and don’t push when someone shows a lack comfort with the conversation.
Don’t: Ask what someones real name is. If they gave you a name, that’s their name. End of story.
Do: Ask about pronouns if you’re unsure. Don’t presume, but also ask privately if possible. Be polite.
Don’t: Call them whatever pronoun you feel comfortable with. It’s not about you.
Do: Compliment them like you would anyone else, if their outfit is sharp. Tell them.
Don’t: Yell out compliments, it just brings attention to them. Some people don’t like attention.
Do: Keep conversations at a level that you’ve reach with them. I.e. If you’ve just met, don’t ask super personal questions.
Don’t: Ever ask about someones genitalia, especially in a group/public setting. If it becomes relevant you’ll know.
Do: Be Awesome. Be Better.